Here at 2:17, tiffs define boundaries and boundaries define our core confidences. Lose your core confidence and you stop being the person that attracted the situation or relationship. Boundaries restrain and protect. What needs to be restrained or protected?
Facing you: You have to stand your ground and be ready to resist against something you partly feel will be helpful. Drop your walls and you remove what defines you.
Facing away: An individual or group is restricting access to only the individuals who have a need to know. What is your need to know?
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